Why It's Better to Have People, Than a Person

Why It’s Better to Have People, Than a Person

Up until a couple days ago I used to think it was weird I did not have one person, just one best friend. It seemed like everyone else had that one person that they could go to for everything and anything. Someone who they have known forever, someone who knew them inside and out. I just did not seem to have that.

Was something wrong with me? I have never been one to let myself get too close to people. Whether that has to do with relationships, friendships, etc. I don’t think relying on any one person fully is healthy. Some might think that type of independence is a little extreme, even I do sometimes, but that is always how I have been. Why can’t I let myself lean on people more, rely on people more, trust people more? It might be because I constantly crave change, and I love moving around, but, honestly, I have no idea. When it comes to friendships, I have always been in large friend groups. In high-school I had a friend group of sixteen, yes…sixteen. In college, my friend group is also over ten girls, so still pretty big.

I have always been surrounded by a lot of girls and a lot of big personalities. I have always considered all of them my good friends, but did I have that one person? Like everyone else seemed to have?

Well, a couple days ago, my friend opened my mind up to an idea I had never thought of before. I do have <em>that person</em>, but even better, I have multiple, I have people. I always knew I was blessed to have so many unreal women in my life, I did not even realize how much these people were all individually my <em>person</em>. They all lifted me, and I lifted all of them. Each and every human on this Earth is unique, has their own opinions, and has been through different experiences. THIS is why it is so important to have multiple people to lean on. Multiple people to help you through things, because everybody has something different to bring to the table; one person may be able to help you with something, where someone else could help you more with something else.

I am so damn grateful for all the women in my life. Women that lift other women up, so let’s do more of that. I am thankful for my friends from home, from boarding school, from camp, from GW, from Trinity, from Australia, and so on.

I am so thankful for my people.